Saying goodbye

It’s one of the most powerful things you can do, and also the hardest. What happens when you outgrow an intimate relationship? Most of us have been there at some point. The gut-wrenching realisation that you have to walk away from someone you love; someone you have a shared history with. Things don’t actually have to be […]

Dear Aunty Em

  ‘How do we stop being scared of living?’ – Scaredy Cat Dear Scaredy Cat, Stopping is not the point. Life is about being scared. If you’re scared, there’s a good chance you’re doing something. The point is the doing. What I understand from your question is that you’re thinking about doing something and those […]

Make your life a holiday

I don’t know about you guys but I am hanging out for Christmas holidays. The thought of not having anywhere to be or anything to do is, well, completely foreign. While I do have some plans, I am going to try and keep them flexible and flowing. The last thing I want is for my holidays […]

Trusting the universe

I was talking to my friend Mich the other day about my current romantic situation. I have fallen for a guy who is in love with someone else; someone who doesn’t seem to want him or love him back. Me and this guy have spent a bit of time together lately and it’s been beautiful. But then he tells […]

Rest and reprieve

Quitter

I have decided to give up. To quit. To stop. I am exhausted. I have been having some increasingly obnoxious health problems which I can only conclude is my body’s way of saying, ‘Not waving, drowning’. So I have quit internet dating and I have stopped drinking coffee, two highly addictive behaviours that have brought […]

Suffering in the wild

Wild

There’s this idea that travel is for fun; a hedonistic activity to be enjoyed. No. Some journeys are filled with sacrifice, pain and spiritual awakenings. We get sick. We get lonely. We get lost. I went to see the film Wild based on the book by Cheryl Strayed. It’s an autobiographical story about how Strayed hiked the […]

Dear Aunty Em

add as friend

‘How many dates is acceptable before you friend request … or do you even?’ – Friendly Fire Dear Friendly Fire, Before I can answer your question, I need to define the use of the word ‘date’. By date, do you mean a civilised coffee enjoyed in public? Or do you mean five bottles of wine […]

Internet dating communication tips for guys

I have received some batshit crazy messages from guys recently. I signed up to Plenty of Fish for a bit of a laugh and YIKES, I have never been sent so many dick pics. Terrible dick pics with mop buckets in the background. Guys, pay some attention to the mise en scene! Mop Dick, as he […]

Wabi-sabi: Embrace it people

wabi-sabi

‘Wabi-sabi represents a comprehensive Japanese world view or aesthetic centred on the acceptance of transience and imperfection. The aesthetic is sometimes described as one of beauty that is ‘imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete’. Characteristics of the wabi-sabi aesthetic include asymmetry, asperity (roughness or irregularity), simplicity, economy, austerity, modesty, intimacy and appreciation of the ingenuous integrity of natural objects and processes’ – Wikipedia This relates to everything. To […]

Light and easy

Horse

I was a bit down for a while there (see: the ‘I’m so fucking lonely’ post). That was cheerful. I felt like all my efforts were wasted and everything was futile and that life was just one enormous GYRE of CYCLICAL MISERY and DISAPPOINTMENT. But then I got drunk with my friend Jo and she revealed the […]