Memories

What kind of memories are you handing out? It’s worth asking yourself this because they are the sum total of your life. They could be the result of the smallest interaction or a lifelong relationship but, upon death, they are the only thing that lives on. Consider this: you have millions of little avatars running around in other […]

Poop

There is nothing quite like a good poop to make you feel better. The strange thing – even with all the talk of fermented foods, gut health, and probiotics – is that no one really talks about the end game. The Poop. I was shocked and delighted when a colleague of mine casually mentioned that she […]

Joy

A few weeks back I read a wonderful post by Elizabeth Gilbert about how your soul is always guiding you towards joy (click here to read it). The basic premise is that the further you move away from what makes you joyful, the louder your soul will protest. Joy, not to be confused with pleasure, is […]

Six things I didn’t know before I became a mum

It doesn’t matter how much time you have spent Googling and talking to people. There’s still a bunch of stuff that will surprise you – and, at times, blindside you – when you become a mum for the first time. Here are the main things that blew my mind. Sex is painful I had a […]

Cockroaches

Our apartment in Glebe is the epicentre of cockroach society. Every tier is represented. Every species. I have never known such activity as what happens in our kitchen after dark. Even when I opened my laptop (my laptop!), a tiny cockroach ran out. A couple of weeks ago I was feeding the baby in bed and […]

Couples viewing

Is this a new phenomenon? The mutual pleasure of loving a TV show so much that it becomes central to your relationship? The Spark and I have enjoyed many box sets and, in an alarmingly truthful moment, he once said that watching TV together is what we do best. That sounds kinda lame, right? That […]

Vulnerability

  I have been thinking about vulnerability, and the various types of social armour we develop, a lot lately. Since becoming a mum, I feel lot more vulnerable (it’s uncomfortable to even write that). I have spent decades building up a protective shell around my wildly over-sensitive heart; built up hulking independence muscles out of […]

Social media life

Social media life is not real life. Instagram is a strange land where people are constantly being photographed from behind looking at vistas, wearing bikinis in The Maldives and wearing floppy hats at music festivals. And Facebook? Well, it seems to have turned into a family photo album. I am just as guilty of this as […]

Motherhood so far

I am one month into this whole motherhood caper and wow. It’s one of the few experiences I have had where all the cliches are true. I feel like a hermit crab with no shell, all soft and vulnerable. Also very hermit-y as I rarely leave the house. The weird thing is that I actually like it. […]

Work break-up

A couple of my friends have recently been through what I would dub a ‘work break-up’; when you leave a role in a distressing or unresolved way. The psychological damage is profound. I have been through it and am currently seeing my mates go through it. Why is it so upsetting? It comes down to […]