Life+Stuff: You don’t have to
Whatever it is that you think you have to do, you don’t have to. It’s that simple. Don’t want to get married, have babies, go to work, wear a suit, pay tax, be a good citizen? Don’t do it. You don’t have to.
There isn’t much that you absolutely have to do.
There will be consequences, no matter what you do, or don’t do.
I always thought that I would grow up, get a degree, get a job, get married, buy a house, have some babies and that would be it. But you know what? It’s not happening that way.
It’s taken me a long time to realise that you don’t have to do any of that stuff. It’s much scarier to consider the vast possibilities. I can live in a rented house in the south of France. I can own an alpaca. I can go blonde, become a stripper and get a tattoo of a pin-up girl on my arm.
I can do whatever I want. How exciting is that?!
What have you always wanted to do? What’s stopping you?
I noticed the piercing I just couldn’t remember if you’d always had it? Not sure what that says about my powers of observation or my memory!
I generally do what I want most of the time anyway, not that my activities are all that exciting/controversial/wild but if I set my mind to something then I just keep at it until I cross it off the list. My family are used to it now anyway. There are still a few things I want to do that are the traditional norms, and I hope to get married, have kids etc, but they are things I’ve always wanted to do, I don’t feel like I have to do them.
You look gorge Em. My quote for this year is “Tell me what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life”.
I love your passion and excitement for life! It’s so inspiring and infectious. And you’re right, we don’t have to tick the boxes and follow a script. How dull if we all do.
You’re such an inspiration!
It can be scary… and even cause a kind of paralysis of potential..but when you just go for it…despite the fear…the consequences can be of brilliant outcomes!
And away…”She Goes” xxx
As you know Emma, nothing stops me. Especially when it comes to going to Hawai’i. And I love your style, drive, enthusiasm, infectious laugh, generosity and love of chocolate. You’ll do superbly in life but I think you’ll only be pole dancing for fun and friends, not as a career objective.
I submit to you the rules I live my life by. I’m sure you and your fans can dig them.
Kimo’s Hawaiian Rules
Never judge a day by the weather
The best things in life aren’t things
Tell the truth – there’s less to remember
Speak softly and wear a loud shirt
Goals are deceptive – the unaimed arrow never misses
He who dies with the most toys – still dies
Age is relative – when you’re over the hill, you pick up speed
There are two ways to be rich – make more or desire less
Beauty is internal – looks mean nothing
No Rain – No Rainbows
All the best
PHIL TRIPP