What kind of memories are you handing out?

It’s worth asking yourself this because they are the sum total of your life.

They could be the result of the smallest interaction or a lifelong relationship but, upon death, they are the only thing that lives on.

Consider this: you have millions of little avatars running around in other people’s brains, performing acts that are embedded in neural pathways.

So what are you doing there?

One of my friends recently had a stroke. He is OK but it was scary.

And what do I remember about this big bear of a guy? I remember how he watered my garden one very hot summer. How he looked after my chooks without complaint. How he and his gorgeous wife gave me a state-of-the-art blender for Christmas for the sole purpose of making margaritas. How he loves bamboo, software development, and his family above all else.

Photos are unreliable. They don’t tell you anything except for what that person looked like. There’s no clue as to how they sound, move, or make others feel.

I would like to be remembered as kind. Kind and funny and always ready with the wine. I would like to be someone who makes people feel better, no matter what is going on. That would be enough for me.

What about you?

How do you want to be remembered? And what are you doing to make sure that happens?