• Dear Aunty Em: Should I have a baby?

    Monday, May 14, 2018

    ‘Should I have a baby?’ – Maybe mama  Dear Maybe mama, a) Go and stand in the card section of K-Mart and check out the Mother’s Day range. Absorb the pinkness, the flowers, the sense of gratitude. b) And then go stand in the homewares section, preferably the boring bit, near the pegs, mops and […]

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  • Dear Aunty Em: Knob job

    Thursday, May 10, 2018

    “Would you judge a guy based on his work? I was chatting to someone online and turns out he works in the gaming industry selling slot/gaming machines. It’s been his career for ages and I think he does well out if it. It’s such a turn-off for me – is that wrong? Am I being […]

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  • Becoming your authentic self

    Tuesday, April 24, 2018

    I am evolving in isolation down here in Camden, NSW. I’ve got to say, it’s making me weird. When you are protected from the influence of society, a funny thing happens. Parts of you grow that were previously trampled. Take my dress sense. I have always been sartorially challenged but I am reaching new lows. […]

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  • Meet the artist: Louise Man

    Tuesday, April 24, 2018

    A change of country prompted a change in direction for the very talented Louise Man. This accomplished PR and editor has now added another talent to her sizeable stash; that of a painter. Read on to find out what inspires her. How long have you been working as an artist? I’ve always enjoyed painting, but […]

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  • Note to my girls

    Monday, April 23, 2018

    I have two step daughters and three nieces and there are a few things I want them to know. The first thing: you are not here to be decorative. People will comment on your looks. They will compliment your figure, and tell you that you’re pretty. You will hear other women complaining and comparing, fretting […]

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Nov
4

Goodbye perfection

Ridding yourself of the need – or desire – for perfection is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself because it’s a package deal. When you say ‘see ya later’ to perfection, expectation and disappointment get walked off the gangplank too. I’ve been painting a bit recently. The hidden bonus, beyond the calm […]

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Nov
2

Beijing for beginners

Previously when I thought about Beijing, what I imagined was a dystopian mega-opolis, heaving with dust mask-wearing cyclists. Proletariats laboured their way to factory jobs, breathing in smog and surviving on minimum wage What I discovered upon arrival was quite different. I saw landscaping. Miles and miles of manicured gardens, trellised roses separating busy lanes of traffic, and […]

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Oct
13

Choice and opportunity

I recently caught up with a friend whose partner left her after she had a late-term miscarriage. We were talking about being single when you’re in your mid-30s and basically how much it sucks. The thing is: she didn’t choose her situation, not for a second. I know plenty of people who are dealing with situations […]

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Oct
10

What it’s like to come off Pristiq

When I was weaning off Pristiq, I Googled the side effects with desperate zeal. I wanted to know what had happened to other people, how they dealt with it and, most importantly, how long it would take to start feeling better. There’s a lot of scary sh*t out there so I am writing this for anyone […]

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Oct
10

The art of oversharing

There was a time when I kept my mouth shut. I didn’t tell people about the embarrassing, sad and stressful things in my life because privacy, right? I used to be horrified at the prospect of having to take anti-depressants, and even more alarmed at people knowing about it. I tried everything under the sun […]

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Oct
7

The best days

One of the best days of my life was spent in Koyasan, a mountain town in Japan. I was travelling by myself, staying in a traditional ryokan and had a spare day to wander around. Koyasan is the birthplace of Shinto Buddhism so there are plenty of temples and shrines to explore, and because of its […]

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Oct
5

School reunions

I have been to two high school reunions – 10 years and 20 years. The first one: I showed up overdressed, half drunk and with a chip on my shoulder. I drank too much, fell down a flight of stairs and almost certainly offended some people. The second one: I showed up as me. The difference? […]

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Oct
4

Meet the artist: Bryanna Pearl Taylor

How long have you been working as an artist? Realistically; a very long time, but I often hid behind ‘creative’ and not ‘artist’. I took the long route – via an education degree and hard days working in high schools – to come out the other side. I didn’t knuckle down to do the work until I […]

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Sep
29

Polymath

I love the concept of being a polymath aka ‘a person of wide knowledge or learning’. In life, we’re encouraged to specialise based on our talents and abilities. But what if you happen to be rabidly passionate about something you’re awful at? Or you have no experience of or exposure to a topic but you’re deeply curious […]

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Sep
28

The friendship test

I have been thinking a lot about this since I wrote about losing friends earlier this week. In my life, there have been times that I would define as friendship tests. If you’re wondering who your friends really are, ask yourself this: Who visited you and looked after you when you were sick? Who was […]

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