• Christmas gifts for people you hate

    Wednesday, November 7, 2018

    In keeping with my current Christmas gift-buying obsession, here’s my fail-proof guide to gifts for people you loathe: A leaf blower: You hate them. Soon, everyone else will too. A chutney gift pack: Has anyone ever used a Christmas chutney? This will live in their pantry and/or fridge and be moved from house to house, […]

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  • Christmas presents for people like me

    Tuesday, November 6, 2018

    It’s around this time of year that I do terrible things to my credit card. I love Christmas and I love buying presents. If you are looking for gift ideas for middle-aged women who love Marimekko but wear K-Mart, here’s some things that I can personally recommend as being both ethical and excellent. Original artworks Art […]

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  • Love your skin suit

    Thursday, October 25, 2018

    Silence of the Lambs has made the concept of a skin suit a little bit too literal but stay with me folks. We are all born into a skin suit that is composed of pretty much the same stuff as everyone else’s. Our genes dominate what it will look like. Some people get an Armani, […]

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  • Losing babies

    Wednesday, October 24, 2018

    The Spark and I have lost three babies this year – one in January and two in the past week. Without going into the excruciating details, all I can say is that this is a very common experience. Every second person I speak to shares their story of loss. One of the midwives who looked […]

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  • Woo-Oahu! My stay at Ritz-Carlton Residences, Waikiki

    Thursday, October 4, 2018

    Most of the time I am a suburban mum covered in toddler snot but occasionally – almost magically – I get yanked out of my leggings and sent spinning into a world of luxury. That’s what happened recently when I wound up at the Ritz-Carlton Residences in Waikiki. When I was dropped off at the […]

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Nov
2

Beijing for beginners

Previously when I thought about Beijing, what I imagined was a dystopian mega-opolis, heaving with dust mask-wearing cyclists. Proletariats laboured their way to factory jobs, breathing in smog and surviving on minimum wage What I discovered upon arrival was quite different. I saw landscaping. Miles and miles of manicured gardens, trellised roses separating busy lanes of traffic, and […]

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Oct
13

Choice and opportunity

I recently caught up with a friend whose partner left her after she had a late-term miscarriage. We were talking about being single when you’re in your mid-30s and basically how much it sucks. The thing is: she didn’t choose her situation, not for a second. I know plenty of people who are dealing with situations […]

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Oct
10

What it’s like to come off Pristiq

When I was weaning off Pristiq, I Googled the side effects with desperate zeal. I wanted to know what had happened to other people, how they dealt with it and, most importantly, how long it would take to start feeling better. There’s a lot of scary sh*t out there so I am writing this for anyone […]

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Oct
10

The art of oversharing

There was a time when I kept my mouth shut. I didn’t tell people about the embarrassing, sad and stressful things in my life because privacy, right? I used to be horrified at the prospect of having to take anti-depressants, and even more alarmed at people knowing about it. I tried everything under the sun […]

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Oct
7

The best days

One of the best days of my life was spent in Koyasan, a mountain town in Japan. I was travelling by myself, staying in a traditional ryokan and had a spare day to wander around. Koyasan is the birthplace of Shinto Buddhism so there are plenty of temples and shrines to explore, and because of its […]

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Oct
5

School reunions

I have been to two high school reunions – 10 years and 20 years. The first one: I showed up overdressed, half drunk and with a chip on my shoulder. I drank too much, fell down a flight of stairs and almost certainly offended some people. The second one: I showed up as me. The difference? […]

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Oct
4

Meet the artist: Bryanna Pearl Taylor

How long have you been working as an artist? Realistically; a very long time, but I often hid behind ‘creative’ and not ‘artist’. I took the long route – via an education degree and hard days working in high schools – to come out the other side. I didn’t knuckle down to do the work until I […]

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Sep
29

Polymath

I love the concept of being a polymath aka ‘a person of wide knowledge or learning’. In life, we’re encouraged to specialise based on our talents and abilities. But what if you happen to be rabidly passionate about something you’re awful at? Or you have no experience of or exposure to a topic but you’re deeply curious […]

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Sep
28

The friendship test

I have been thinking a lot about this since I wrote about losing friends earlier this week. In my life, there have been times that I would define as friendship tests. If you’re wondering who your friends really are, ask yourself this: Who visited you and looked after you when you were sick? Who was […]

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Sep
26

Losing friends

Do you ever feel like you are losing friends? Either you have had a falling out, never hear from them or you make all the effort, which leads you to wonder: do these people even like me? One very efficient way to lose half your friends is to get divorced. The night that I found […]

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