• The most important thing I’ve learnt this year

    Thursday, December 20, 2018

    This year has been tough by any measure. The upside is that hard times teach you a lot about yourself and other people. The most important thing I’ve learnt is that if you focus on filling yourself up with peace, that peace will eventually overflow into other people’s lives. Same goes if you fill yourself up […]

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  • Soul gardening

    Monday, December 3, 2018

    Do you know about how crop rotation works? How farmers don’t plant the same crop in the same place year after year? Humans are the same. We can’t keep producing, producing, producing without a rest. We need inputs. If you were a garden, you would need to be weeded, composted, fertilised and replanted. You may […]

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    Monday, November 19, 2018

    It’s about this time of year that mama needs a long lie down. But here’s the thing: I have a 20 month-old toddler who wakes up at dawn every single day. There is no holiday on earth that can get around that crushing fact. So how can you combine a family holiday where you get […]

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  • Meet the artist: Cathy Stait-Gardner

    Monday, November 19, 2018

    If you have spoken to me recently, you have probably heard me banging on Camden’s answer to Quentin Blake. Meet Cathy Stait-Gardner – gifted artist, Buffy fan and all ’round hilarious woman. How long have you been an artist? An artist. It sounds so high-brow! I’m not sure how long Ive been an artist. I’ve […]

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  • Christmas gifts for people you hate

    Wednesday, November 7, 2018

    In keeping with my current Christmas gift-buying obsession, here’s my fail-proof guide to gifts for people you loathe: A leaf blower: You hate them. Soon, everyone else will too. A chutney gift pack: Has anyone ever used a Christmas chutney? This will live in their pantry and/or fridge and be moved from house to house, […]

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Nov
8

5 truths about your body

You are going to get fat ‘I was so thin but I thought I was so fat’ is a common statement among women looking at old photos of themselves.  At every stage of my life I have routinely thought ‘I am so fat’ and taken various measures to address this supposed problem. That is, until now. […]

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Nov
8

Hot spot: Bogor, Indonesia

How well do you think you know Indonesia? For starters, how many islands are there? Answer: 18,306 (!). Did you know that Indonesia has the most active volcanoes of any nation in the world? And what about geography? Can you point out Jakarta on a map? Most Australians have heard of Bali and some will have even […]

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Nov
7

To the little dude in my stomach

You’re still growing. Your ETA in this world is still months away. Until then, I just want to share a story about what kind of guy your Dad is. He got side-swiped in traffic this morning. The other driver was a P-plater and she pulled out without properly looking. To give you some background, he’s […]

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Nov
4

Goodbye perfection

Ridding yourself of the need – or desire – for perfection is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself because it’s a package deal. When you say ‘see ya later’ to perfection, expectation and disappointment get walked off the gangplank too. I’ve been painting a bit recently. The hidden bonus, beyond the calm […]

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Nov
2

Beijing for beginners

Previously when I thought about Beijing, what I imagined was a dystopian mega-opolis, heaving with dust mask-wearing cyclists. Proletariats laboured their way to factory jobs, breathing in smog and surviving on minimum wage What I discovered upon arrival was quite different. I saw landscaping. Miles and miles of manicured gardens, trellised roses separating busy lanes of traffic, and […]

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Oct
13

Choice and opportunity

I recently caught up with a friend whose partner left her after she had a late-term miscarriage. We were talking about being single when you’re in your mid-30s and basically how much it sucks. The thing is: she didn’t choose her situation, not for a second. I know plenty of people who are dealing with situations […]

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Oct
10

What it’s like to come off Pristiq

When I was weaning off Pristiq, I Googled the side effects with desperate zeal. I wanted to know what had happened to other people, how they dealt with it and, most importantly, how long it would take to start feeling better. There’s a lot of scary sh*t out there so I am writing this for anyone […]

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Oct
10

The art of oversharing

There was a time when I kept my mouth shut. I didn’t tell people about the embarrassing, sad and stressful things in my life because privacy, right? I used to be horrified at the prospect of having to take anti-depressants, and even more alarmed at people knowing about it. I tried everything under the sun […]

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Oct
7

The best days

One of the best days of my life was spent in Koyasan, a mountain town in Japan. I was travelling by myself, staying in a traditional ryokan and had a spare day to wander around. Koyasan is the birthplace of Shinto Buddhism so there are plenty of temples and shrines to explore, and because of its […]

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Oct
5

School reunions

I have been to two high school reunions – 10 years and 20 years. The first one: I showed up overdressed, half drunk and with a chip on my shoulder. I drank too much, fell down a flight of stairs and almost certainly offended some people. The second one: I showed up as me. The difference? […]

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