Dear Aunty Em: Name change

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‘To change or not to change your last name when getting married in your mid-30s?’ – Name Check Dear Name Check, I heard a story on the weekend about a doctor of philosophy who changed his surname to ‘human’ because he wanted to break down the barriers between himself and others. He also happened to be […]

Dear Aunty Em: X Factor

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‘Should you keep in touch with your ex? What are the no go zones and when it is OK?’ – X Factor Dear X Factor, This is a very broad question so I’m going to break it down a little. Are we talking about an ex from high school, an ex-husband or wife who you have kids […]

Dear Aunty Em: STI

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‘How should you tell a partner about an STI? I had a lover tell me he just found out his ex from six months back tested positive for chlamydia. By text. Not cool.’ – Love bug Dear Love bug, There are two sides to this coin. On the positive side, he told you about it […]

Dear Aunty Em: White elephants and white rabbits

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What should you do when you have a paid, sit-down function and someone brings an uninvited guest? Also, what should you do when you invite people to your house and you say 3pm and then everyone turns up one hour late because they were hanging out at the shopping centre or just generally mucking around (i.e. no […]

Dear Aunty Em: Druncle

Galdalf, while wise, was also a bit of a joker with the fireworks

‘What to do if your uncle keeps telling misogynistic jokes? I should mention that he’s 80 (so possibly unlikely to change at this advanced age) and quite sweet otherwise (though he’s also a Trump supporter and thinks all Muslims are terrorists-in-waiting.) Where are all the wise elders? (swallowed by the cult of youth?). My Aunty […]

Dear Aunty Em: Shades of grey

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Dear Aunty Em,  So my friend has been happily married for years. She’s always had a bit of friendly banter with this person in her life but apparently she has missed all the signs that he was totally keen. She hasn’t been getting a lot of attention from her hubby and I think old mate […]

Dear Aunty Em: Crazy step mum

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‘My arsehole ex-husband has knocked up a young Asian lady. They are having a baby and I worry about our son and what to do. The young girl thinks she’s my son’s mother. She assaulted him on New Year’s Eve. What do I do?’ – Worried Mama Dear Worried Mama, Whoah, I am out of […]

Dear Aunty Em: Drainers

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‘How do you stop seeing people in your life who are drainers? How do you cut them off and out of your life?’ – Tired Dear Tired, The thing about electricity is that it requires a circuit to work. The energy flows in a loop. The best relationships are like this. The giving and taking […]

Dear Aunty Em: Feels

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‘How do I have feelings?’ and ‘How do I stop having so many feelings? – The Feels Dear The Feels, I suspect you are two sides of the same coin; a coin called depression and anxiety. Numbness, or inability to feel, is one of the signs that you could be suffering from depression. Feeling too much […]

Dear Aunty Em: Making lurve

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‘Closing our eyes whilst making love seems perfectly natural and acceptable, but there are times one wants to hold a lovers gaze. Is it arousing, confronting, beautiful or weird?’ – Eyeballs Dear Eyeballs, Like all things in sex, it totally depends on your partner. Some people cannot get enough of bananas up their butt while […]