Stillness

As the year winds up and many of us look forward to a break, consider this simple concept. Stillness. Think of water in nature. Movement stirs up sediment and it becomes murky. Remove that turbulence and the sediment sinks. Clarity returns. Over the next few weeks, find time to be still. Stop thinking. Stop doing. […]

Christmas survival guide

Most of us approach Christmas with genuine goodwill and positive intentions but that doesn’t mean that things always work out. Exhaustion, financial stress, heat, alcohol and lots of togetherness can lead to interpersonal friction that can ruin your whole festive season. With this in mind, psychotherapist and relationship specialist Melissa Ferrari says it’s important to be […]

Too busy? Just stop

This time of year should be called Crabbymas: the festival of exhaustion that takes place before Christmas. Lots of us turn ourselves inside out getting to parties, end of year catch-ups, and hitting the shops to stock up on gift boxed pretzels and fruit mince pies. Some of us start to feel like our glass […]

Gold thread

If you imagine that every day is a thread in a tapestry that you are weaving, ask yourself: what colour was today? The cumulative effect will be visible when you finish. The mistakes, the design choices, the colours and complexity. What do you want the overall picture to look like? Every single day contributes to the […]

Small life

  I have a lot going on in a small space. My world used to be huge. I would fly interstate and overseas without a second thought. Sydney Airport felt like a second home. But now? I haven’t even had time to pick up my new passport which has been languishing, uncollected, for four months. […]

Gifts from the storm

So here’s an obscure movie reference. In The Good Dinosaur, there’s a pterodactyl-esque character called Thunderclap. He’s a predatory bad ass in the same vein as the hyenas in The Lion King. [Spoiler alert] In the middle of the movie, there’s a severe storm that wreaks havoc. After the storm has passed, Thunderclap rejoices because a lot […]

Removing decisions

Choice is a good thing, right? I would argue that yes, choice is excellent, but being overwhelmed by choices is not. It’s easy to spend a lot of time deliberating over things that will not improve your day. For the first six months of mat leave, I wore the same H&M shirt in five different […]

Needless suffering

We all do it. We all have one drink too many, or eat that thing we know makes us sick. We put up with the back pain because we’re too broke or busy too go to the chiropractor. We put off holidays because work – or our boss – is just too crazy right now. […]

Inside the baby bubble: balancing your needs with your newborn’s

Few things are more eagerly anticipated than the arrival of a new baby. From the moment you know that your baby is on its way, life takes on a whole new meaning. Anxiously waiting for hospital appointments or excitedly buying first baby clothes; new parenthood sits you precariously on an emotional rollercoaster. In awe of […]

80/20 rule

I suffer from an overwhelming desire to plan things. After all, a failure to plan is a plan to fail, right? Wrong. All this planning inevitably leads to disappointment as nothing ever turns out the way I hope it will. The weather is bad, I have a fight with someone, I get sick. Something goes […]