Thoughts on happiness

I have become noticeably happier since I stopped reading women’s magazines. I rarely go shopping, and if I do, I don’t spend more than I can afford. I try not to shop from boredom or a sense of unworthiness (buying things to make me feel more socially acceptable, or cool, or professional). I care a […]

Stay away from The Jones’

I have been thinking about The Jones’, that mythical family who drive the status anxiety of the aspirational. Why would you want to keep up with wasteful, greedy mega-consumers? The Jones live in a mansion, drive new cars, have shiny white teeth and golden fake tans. They holiday often and throw fancy parties. But really? […]

Moving house, goddess Kali and Picasso

Goddess Kali is the fearsome one: the goddess of destruction in the Hindu pantheon. What I love about her – and the whole school of thought surrounding the Hindu G.O.D concept (Generator, Operator, Destroyer) – is that it acknowledges that death and destruction is a critical part of the wheel of fortune. Which brings me […]

Plastic: IT’S EVERYWHERE

Plastic is a miracle material. Water-resistant, available in all sorts of textures and colours, and wow – what a lifespan. When you start taking note of where it’s used, you realise it’s everywhere. Those little stickers on fruit. Wrapped around your magazine subscription. Connecting swing tags to clothes. In dog parks to pick up poo. […]

Why gardening

So I started a gardening festival. Seems like an odd thing to do when you’re kinda busy with raising kids, and chasing puppies, and managing a hectic workload. But I had one of those whooshes of inspiration (that some people call the muse) and I felt compelled. Maybe even propelled. Why gardening? Well, because I […]

Becoming your authentic self

I am evolving in isolation down here in Camden, NSW. I’ve got to say, it’s making me weird. When you are protected from the influence of society, a funny thing happens. Parts of you grow that were previously trampled. Take my dress sense. I have always been sartorially challenged but I am reaching new lows. […]

Note to my girls

I have two step daughters and three nieces and there are a few things I want them to know. The first thing: you are not here to be decorative. People will comment on your looks. They will compliment your figure, and tell you that you’re pretty. You will hear other women complaining and comparing, fretting […]

Goodbye stupid fun

It’s depressing to realise that my wild years are over. I went out on Saturday night and didn’t even make it to dessert. The day that sleep beats molten chocolate lava pudding is a grave one. The knock-on realisation is that I have to stick to my routine. If I stay up too late, drink […]

Feminism is confusing

I was listening to the hilarious Guilty Feminist podcast this morning and it made me realise that feminism – and indeed, being female – is confusing. I have spent my whole life trying to get male approval and attention. I am on the chunky side and my weight has always made me feel inferior to anyone […]

Joey: A year in review

I have been a mum for nearly a year now. Our beautiful baby Joey turns one on Saturday. So what’s it like? And have I learnt anything? Without sounding hyperbolic, becoming a mum has given me a reason to live; a defined purpose that begins and ends with keeping my son happy and healthy. This […]