To the little dude in my stomach

You’re still growing. Your ETA in this world is still months away. Until then, I just want to share a story about what kind of guy your Dad is. He got side-swiped in traffic this morning. The other driver was a P-plater and she pulled out without properly looking. To give you some background, he’s […]

Goodbye perfection

Ridding yourself of the need – or desire – for perfection is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself because it’s a package deal. When you say ‘see ya later’ to perfection, expectation and disappointment get walked off the gangplank too. I’ve been painting a bit recently. The hidden bonus, beyond the calm […]

Choice and opportunity

I recently caught up with a friend whose partner left her after she had a late-term miscarriage. We were talking about being single when you’re in your mid-30s and basically how much it sucks. The thing is: she didn’t choose her situation, not for a second. I know plenty of people who are dealing with situations […]

The art of oversharing

There was a time when I kept my mouth shut. I didn’t tell people about the embarrassing, sad and stressful things in my life because privacy, right? I used to be horrified at the prospect of having to take anti-depressants, and even more alarmed at people knowing about it. I tried everything under the sun […]

The best days

One of the best days of my life was spent in Koyasan, a mountain town in Japan. I was travelling by myself, staying in a traditional ryokan and had a spare day to wander around. Koyasan is the birthplace of Shinto Buddhism so there are plenty of temples and shrines to explore, and because of its […]

School reunions

I have been to two high school reunions – 10 years and 20 years. The first one: I showed up overdressed, half drunk and with a chip on my shoulder. I drank too much, fell down a flight of stairs and almost certainly offended some people. The second one: I showed up as me. The difference? […]

Polymath

I love the concept of being a polymath aka ‘a person of wide knowledge or learning’. In life, we’re encouraged to specialise based on our talents and abilities. But what if you happen to be rabidly passionate about something you’re awful at? Or you have no experience of or exposure to a topic but you’re deeply curious […]

The friendship test

I have been thinking a lot about this since I wrote about losing friends earlier this week. In my life, there have been times that I would define as friendship tests. If you’re wondering who your friends really are, ask yourself this: Who visited you and looked after you when you were sick? Who was […]

Losing friends

Do you ever feel like you are losing friends? Either you have had a falling out, never hear from them or you make all the effort, which leads you to wonder: do these people even like me? One very efficient way to lose half your friends is to get divorced. The night that I found […]

Read/watch list for people who don’t care about celebrities

Do you struggle to find stuff to read/watch that resonates? I hate most reality television. I don’t like sport. I have no interest in celebrities, diets or fashion (except for when I’m on holiday – I love reading Vogue). Subsequently, I come up short when I am looking for new stuff to read or watch, even though […]