A reaction against shiny

I feel a creeping desire to become shabbier. Not dye my hair or wear make up. Forget about fashion. Give up trying to be cool. I’ve spent many years trying to shape myself into something acceptable but the problem is that I’m becoming apathetic about impressing people. Shininess takes so much work, energy, time and […]

Not all bloggers are idiots

My friend linked to a brutal takedown of ‘mommy bloggers’ on Facebook this morning. It was an interesting read, coming as it did from a blogger who had profited heavily from the blogging industry. I am a weirdo in the sense that I am a journalist/blogger/former PR. There’s a prevailing sentiment that journalists hate bloggers and PRs, […]

Know who has your money

I realise I’m starting to sound a bit ‘conspiracy theorist’ but I assure you that I am years away from moving into a cave and wrapping my head in Alfoil. I am currently devoted to finding out where my money is going and having a say in the way it’s spent. I have changed my super fund to […]

Mother’s Day for step mums

I am a step mum (even though that thought seems too big for my head). I may never have kids so my two step daughters could be my only chance to be a parent of any kind. And yet, I have no stake in them. Nothing biological to tie us together, no authority. As a step […]

Why you should spend local

I just spent the past two days at a conference that was all about making money. The words yield, capital, investment and RevPar (Revenue Per Available Room) were bandied around like bon mots. I hated it. When the CEO of a company I have supported for a long time started talking about property development without […]

I want what you have

A friend of mine said this to me recently and I totally understand what she meant. We were talking about relationships, specifically romantic ones, and she said that she is looking for something solid and lasting. I felt exactly the same way before I met The Spark. I’d observed as one of my friends, who […]

Wedding = worth it!

There’s a lot of conjecture as to whether there’s any point getting married. It’s expensive (yep), statistically likely to fail (yep) and it’s only one day of your life and then everything goes back to normal (nope). Well, I’m here to say GET WED PEOPLE. Sure, there are plenty of reasons you shouldn’t get married […]

Can all flowers be delivered safely?

You may not be able to remember it, but there was a time when people used to call at a flower shop or stall to buy flowers in person. Of course, that can still happen, and some people prefer the peace of mind of knowing exactly what they are buying because they can see the […]

Ten ways to improve your day

You know those mornings when you wake up feeling like crap? Maybe you slept badly, you’re hungover, the kids kept you up or the neighbours were noisy? Maybe you’re sick, worn out from life, or you’ve been dumped or otherwise hurt emotionally? Either way, you’re not feeling awesome. Here are ten ways that you can turn that ship […]

What equality means to me

The widely accepted belief is that being a woman sucks more than being a man. That we’ve spent our lives being the object of sexual harassment, being beaten up by our partners and being underpaid for our work. All of these things are as true for men (and disabled and indigenous people) as they are for women. I […]