Dear Aunty Em: Cancellations

“What happens when seven people say they are going to come to a function, with a bill that has to be paid beforehand, and then they don’t turn up. I paid for this out of my pocket. What should I do?” Annoyed ATM Dear Annoyed ATM, Before I lambast your friends for their rudeness, I have a couple […]

The cooling down period

I feel like I’ve been set adrift. I used to have intense friendships where we would hang out all the time and have intimate knowledge of each other’s lives. But these days? I’m lucky to see my friends once a month. I don’t feel bad about this, per se, because it’s allowed me the time […]

Does Sydney nightlife suck?

I wouldn’t have a clue because I don’t go out anymore. The argument about the damage that lock out laws and casino development is causing rages on but I feel unqualified to comment on the impact because I am shouting from the sidelines. One interesting point to note is that people have been saying Sydney nightlife will die for […]

Food fancification 101

Instagram makes me laugh. All those top down shots of perfectly swirled crema on coffees, rainbow graded jars of salad and un-smooshed smoothies. Then there’s the high-end restaurants that make every plate look like a work of art. They also make me laugh because they charge $20 for what is essentially $2 worth of nicely arranged ingredients. […]

Go hard

People are all about balance these days; work/life balance, balanced diets, balanced schedules. But what about the bingers? The people who immerse themselves so completely in a subject that it’s all they think about? Who spend every last cent on the thing they love? Who forget to eat (or eat too much) because they’re so caught up […]

Dear Aunty Em: Abusive dad

‘When I was 12 I witnessed my dad physically abuse my mother in front of my younger siblings and two closest cousins. I ran to the neighbours for help, they called the police. My mum, siblings and I spent three weeks staying with friends and family. Mum went back after dad promised to never do […]

Smashed: A review

Glebe St Vincent de Paul is the next best thing to a library. My suburb is full of nerds; students, teachers, activists and thinkers. Hence, the Vinnies here is a gold mine for second-hand books. That’s how, for a mere $3, I wound up with Koren Zailckas’ 2005 memoir ‘Smashed’. This is like Bridget Jones’ […]

The thing about resolutions

You won’t act on them until you’re ready. No arbitrary date will make you lose weight, no fireworks display will help you quit smoking, and you won’t get out of debt simply because you decided that this is the year. Change can be glacially slow or hummingbird rapid. Why? Because something needs to change in your chemistry, […]

Before we forget Christmas

I went to the shops on January 1 and there were Easter buns on the shelves. EASTER BUNS. But before we digress into chocolate ovum and spicy bakery treats, let’s first debrief on the Christmas that was. Mine was semi-traumatic. How was yours? I have spent a great deal of time pondering why I found the failure of my Christmas […]

Living with disapproval

I recently experienced a big dose of disapproval, and wow, it hurt. It came from the place where I would most expect it: my family. I recently got engaged in a fairly fuss-free way. No ring. No proposal. A simple agreement between adults to marry. In keeping with the theme of simplicity, and in light […]