Life + stuff: Stop listening
Do you listen to other people’s opinions?
Do you then change your mind, beliefs or behaviour based on those opinions?
It’s normally considered a good idea to listen to other people. In fact, society strongly encourages us to listen to our peers; parents, teachers, employers, partners, friends and mentors.
But what if they’re all wrong?
Do you ever stop and listen to your own heart? What is it saying? Do you trust it?
I have been told (and believed) all sorts of things throughout my life because I am essentially really gullible. I didn’t trust my own intuition and intelligence enough to listen.
I am trying to stop and listen now.
Do you listen to other people’s opinions? How do you sort the good advice from the total bollocks?
I listen, but when something feels like a bad idea, or that it’s all going to fail miserably, I find it incredibly difficult to determine whether it’s my intuition or my insecurity talking.
I am a little too much like you, my Emma. I believe what other people say because it just seems like they know what they’re talking about. At work, with love, health, dieting, money – there is always someone that thinks they’re a bit more of an expert than you are – and they’re quick to shout out their ‘expert advice’.
If I hear one more PR say “…Oh, that’s a nice story.” I will probs throw my computer at them… No, it isn’t a nice story. Do you even read the paper – where do you see this ‘nice story’ you speak of?
If I hear one more DR say “…It is just a rash, it will go away in a few days.” I will probs throw my shoe at him… No, It isn’t just a rash, it feels like I have thrush on my foot!
Well guess what, I am a strong, independent black woman, and I don’t need no advice from no one (say that with a strong southern accent).
That is my little rant for the week 🙂
Thanks for making me feel better – Listen to your heart and cle[a]ver mind (sometimes you need to think like a cleaver) You know what is best!
Beau x
I think it’s wise to listen to others but ultimately you have to trust your own instincts and believe that you know what is best for you. Things might go wrong and your friends might go I told you so, in which case just chalk it up as a learning experience.
This is a tough one. Sometimes I’m all for using my intuition, but at other times not so much – I know how easy is to ignore what other people are saying when it’s something I don’t want to hear… then later I’ve realised that I could have actually used their outsider’s opinion. Oh well!
Essentially I think it’s too hard to tell in the moment – hindsight is so much easier 😉
Like it Em!
good point.
Trust your intuition and block out the other noise!