80/20 rule

I suffer from an overwhelming desire to plan things. After all, a failure to plan is a plan to fail, right? Wrong. All this planning inevitably leads to disappointment as nothing ever turns out the way I hope it will. The weather is bad, I have a fight with someone, I get sick. Something goes […]

Mat leave is over

Yesterday was my last official day of maternity leave; a very reluctant end to 7.5 months of the most magnificent/mundane time of my life. I have been drugged, cut open and had an organ (and a glorious baby boy) removed. I have been pooed on, something that I thought only happened in German sex clubs. […]

For Amy

I went to your funeral on Friday. I think you would’ve liked it. The weird thing is, I kept expecting you to show up. But your face wasn’t in the crowd. It was printed on the card that the funeral directors were handing out at the door. Your friends and family are a cool bunch, an […]

Family culture

Families have incredibly complex micro-cultures. You can take two middle class Aussie families and, on the surface, they appear similar. They live in brick and tile houses, they spend Christmas together, they go on holidays to Thailand, or Fiji, or New Zealand. But the minute you start to investigate, gaping differences appear. It’s not just […]

Camden, NSW

Mount Annan Botanic Garden

It’s taken me a while to write this. I wasn’t sure about Camden at first. It’s supremely weird moving from a tiny apartment in the city – complete with yell-y crazy neighbour, sparkly city lights, ambient bus noise and a fancy cafe on the doorstep – to a giant house in the country. Bridgewater is one […]

Kindness

Kindess

Forget everything you’ve been taught. Forget about achieving. Forget about Bachelors degrees, or Honours, or Masters. Forget about owning things. Forget about money. Forget everything but this. Kindness is the only thing that matters. Kindness to yourself, because that’s where all kindness begins. Look upon yourself with love. With compassion. With humour. And then turn […]

In praise of the everyday

gentle living

After years of writing about – and occasionally experiencing – some pretty fancy stuff, I have to say that I am loving the humble life. Aldi Champagne instead of Veuve. Homemade casseroles instead of degustations. Days of laundry, writing, baby mama-ing and coffees with friends. There’s a lot of joy to be found in this new […]

The fourth trimester

The fourth trimester

There’s nothing like a new baby to mess up your relationship. I am not saying we don’t love him. We obsessively, completely do. We are both like super crazy thriller movie stalkers (think of a room wallpapered in pictures of our baby’s every move with some black pen drawings for extra craziness. And maybe some poems. […]

Walk, salad, stretch

Salad

I am currently going through a stage where I am really conscious of how everyday actions affect me. Life with a newborn is a marathon, not a sprint. After three months of night feeds, severe C-section-related back pain and getting into the groove of freelance writing, I am finding that a new mantra has emerged. […]

What you can learn from a baby

What you can learn from a baby

I spend a lot of time hanging out with a Tiny Person these days and there are a few things that I’ve noticed that could really help us all be a bit happier. Stretch Whenever Baby Joey wakes up, he does a massive stretch. A head-to-toe, back arching stretch. Yoga may not be your thing […]