Losing babies

The Spark and I have lost three babies this year – one in January and two in the past week.

Without going into the excruciating details, all I can say is that this is a very common experience.

Every second person I speak to shares their story of loss.

One of the midwives who looked after me told me about her best friend’s stillborn child.

My GP told me that his wife had four miscarriages and they never managed to conceive. He said she cried all the time.

My friend called me and told me he and his wife have had three miscarriages, something I knew nothing about until yesterday.

There is a silent river of sorrow running below the surface of life and it’s this opening up, this sharing that creates a well.

It is enormously comforting to hear these stories of loss. It makes our loss feel like an everyday tragedy, not some aberration unique to us.

So please share your stories with whoever needs them. The kindest thing you can do for someone hurting is to show them they’re not alone.

Note: I know we’re so lucky to have Joey. This knowledge is in every breath I take.


4 comments on “Losing babies

  1. My beautiful lady our hearts are aching for you !!! Our babies mean everything to us here or our rainbows xx forever in our hearts and thoughts
    Love you

  2. I am so very sorry for what you and the Spark have been through. You live your life taking chances on a fairytale ending with hope in your heart. I love that about you. Don’t let shitty outcomes change the very essence of who you are. PS we love Joey too -he is delicious ๐Ÿ˜

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