Baan Baa

New love rules

I drove to Narrabri and back this week which was B.O.R.I.N.G.

Subsequently, I had plenty of time to think about Life (caps deliberate).

Baan Baa
Baan Baa is a cosmopolitan mecca

I think I’ve figured out what I’ve been doing wrong in the love stakes and have now devised the following criteria for selecting a mate. Read on, dear friends, for the the sort of wisdom that can only strike a person between Baan Baa and Boggabri.

1. Emotional

Does this person meet my emotional needs or do I always feel like I am scrambling for attention, affection and affirmation? Am I the only one communicating? Am I doing all the inviting, organising and overall effort effort-making?

2. Intellectual

Is this person smart, interesting and creative? Are they going to teach me anything? Introduce me to new ideas? Have the intellectual rigour to debate their position?

3. Social

Can this person hold their own socially? Will they get along with my friends and family? Will they be the life (or the death) of the party? Do they have their own established social network?

4. Sexual

Does this person care about how I’m feeling? Do they care about making me happy? Is sex a one-dimensional experience or something more? What are their views about sexuality? Are they draconian or liberal-minded?

I have no idea if it’s even possible to find someone who can meet all of these criteria but dammit, I am going to try.

What are your love rules? Have you had to change them or install updates?

5 comments on “New love rules

  1. I think you and I might be the same person, Emma … or maybe we’re just dating the same guys?! 😉


  2. Hi Jane – lol – maybe?! All I know is that I need to do something different or I am going to die alone and my cat really will eat me. I’m not joking. She’s crazy.

  3. Maybe one day you can give me a scorecard to see how I fared against those rules. It would be interesting to compare scores you’d give me with ones I’d give myself.

    Nevertheless I think it’s great when people think about this sort of thing – it can only lead to more happiness!


  4. You can be happy with much less than what is on your list. I am a big advocate of lists of all descriptions but I think this particular one should be tossed out. Instead, when you meet someone, write a list of all the things about them that are good and judge them on their own merit. Love is a two way street and it is DEFINITELY not perfect – true love is about loving them regardless of whether they have the intellectual rigour to debate their position!

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