What love is

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What love is: Love is choosing to forgive, even though you’re angry or disappointed. Love is talking about things in an honest, uncomfortable way. Love is admitting your imperfections and accepting your partner’s. Love is focusing on the positives. Love is laughing at yourself and lightening the mood when it’s all too easy to be serious. Love is […]


Just a normal trip to the bathroom

Yes! Half the population gets them, is going to get them or had them. Why doesn’t anyone talk about it?! People will tell you about their FitBits, CrossFit classes and Fitness First memberships and yet here’s this huge health thing that affects all women on a regular basis and … nothing. And yet when you do bring […]

The power of fun


I used to think ‘professional’ meant no kidding around. I thought it meant suits and straight faces. Turns out, I was horrible at it so I starting mucking around. If they were going to fire me, dammit, I was going to enjoy myself. But a funny thing happened. I started getting better results. People seemed […]

Give yourself some credit

If you are wearing these shoes, I take it all back. Take a long, hard look at yourself.

It’s really easy to look around and give everyone else credit. You love that woman’s shoes, she has pretty eyes, she is so articulate … the list goes on. Why aren’t we this positive about ourselves? If you’re completely honest, do you think more negative than positive things about yourself? I am constantly criticising my […]

Saying goodbye


It’s one of the most powerful things you can do, and also the hardest. What happens when you outgrow an intimate relationship? Most of us have been there at some point. The gut-wrenching realisation that you have to walk away from someone you love; someone you have a shared history with. Things don’t actually have to be […]

Dear Aunty Em

Get out of your own way

  ‘How do we stop being scared of living?’ – Scaredy Cat Dear Scaredy Cat, Stopping is not the point. Life is about being scared. If you’re scared, there’s a good chance you’re doing something. The point is the doing. What I understand from your question is that you’re thinking about doing something and those […]

Make your life a holiday

Bring it on, yo!

I don’t know about you guys but I am hanging out for Christmas holidays. The thought of not having anywhere to be or anything to do is, well, completely foreign. While I do have some plans, I am going to try and keep them flexible and flowing. The last thing I want is for my holidays […]

Trusting the universe

Fate is an absolute dick sometimes

I was talking to my friend Mich the other day about my current romantic situation. I have fallen for a guy who is in love with someone else; someone who doesn’t seem to want him or love him back. Me and this guy have spent a bit of time together lately and it’s been beautiful. But then he tells […]

Rest and reprieve


I have decided to give up. To quit. To stop. I am exhausted. I have been having some increasingly obnoxious health problems which I can only conclude is my body’s way of saying, ‘Not waving, drowning’. So I have quit internet dating and I have stopped drinking coffee, two highly addictive behaviours that have brought […]

Suffering in the wild


There’s this idea that travel is for fun; a hedonistic activity to be enjoyed. No. Some journeys are filled with sacrifice, pain and spiritual awakenings. We get sick. We get lonely. We get lost. I went to see the film Wild based on the book by Cheryl Strayed. It’s an autobiographical story about how Strayed hiked the […]