Joey: A year in review
I have been a mum for nearly a year now. Our beautiful baby Joey turns one on Saturday.
So what’s it like? And have I learnt anything?
Without sounding hyperbolic, becoming a mum has given me a reason to live; a defined purpose that begins and ends with keeping my son happy and healthy. This takes up a lot of the space in my life that I used to fill with dumb ass things like drinking and partying.
I may not sleep all that well but I have definitely calmed down on the going out front. I hardly ever go anywhere these days. I cook at home. I walk around the neighbourhood. I watch more TV than I ever have before.
I finally feel like I have a home, and a family, and that I have a clear place in the middle of it.
And I just love him so much. This is not news. A lot of parents say this but this expansive, all-encompassing adoration is like a light that never goes out.
It’s this light that gets you through the dark bits. The long nights of breastfeeding, the never-ending washing and cleaning, and the exhaustion.
Watching your child grow and develop is pretty much the funnest thing ever, and making a baby laugh is the best thing on earth. Holding your sleeping child runs a pretty close second.
You give up a lot of your old life for this new life.
You give up sleep. You give up vanity. You give up being carefree.
You replace these things groundedness, tenderness and a lot of cleaning.
Your true friends stick with you. Your less attached friends drift off.
Your family want to hang out with you (read: the baby) more.
And the whole thing brings everyone together with the joint purpose of sharing in the wonderfully, deeply human thing that is raising a child.
A few things about Joey:
- He LOVES bananas
- He smiles a lot (he currently has three teeth)
- He loves watching the water go down the drain in the bath
- He thinks his sisters are hilarious
- He loves swimming with his Dad
- He is obsessed with the bins and the toilets (he’s a classy guy)
- He knows how to use a hose and water the garden (proud Mum)
- He tries to escape every time you try to dress him. Every morning involves chasing Joey and trying to put a nappy/t-shirt on him
- He is the best
What did becoming a parent teach you? And what are your favourite bits?