I’m an idiot
Love makes fools of us all and once again, I have proven that I am a first-rate idiot.
I met a guy online, we went on a couple of dates and before I knew it, I was head-over-heels in love and planning a Vegas wedding.
Here’s the thing: I am super gullible. I believe people wholeheartedly when they say things like ‘I love you’, ‘I have never felt this way before’ and ‘Let’s get married and have a million babies’ (well, I said that but you know what I am getting at).
I believe. I want to love someone. I want to share my life with an awesome dude and I thought I had found the man for the job.
Turns out that man is still confused about his ex and went from allegedly loving me to total ambivalence overnight.
I made some huge mistakes as well. I got too comfortable and had too much faith. I told him what I really thought about some of his lifestyle choices – namely smoking and eating loads of junk food – and that went down extremely badly. I got annoyed because all we were doing was watching TV and hanging out at his house. I started to feel stressed and tired and miserable because I wasn’t exercising or getting enough sleep.
The big lessons here? Don’t rush in. Don’t give up your own life to hang out with someone you barely know. Never change your relationship status on Facebook until you have a ring on your finger or a baby on the way. And don’t decide to break up with someone on Facebook when you’re drunk and emotional.
It’s ridiculous to trust someone you’ve only just met. It turns out that even old hands like me can make the most basic rookie errors.
So, like I said, I’m an idiot.
Have you made these kinds of mistakes? Do we ever really learn?
UPDATE ALERT: The guy is getting back with his ex. The very same ex who cheated on him with her violent, abusive ex. Yep, I’m an idiot but so is he.