You don’t have to be the best
You don’t have to be special or different or interesting.
You don’t have to be a high achiever or do anything even remotely impressive.
Everywhere you go, everywhere you look, the world is urging you to succeed. To follow your dreams. To be more, have more, do more.
Guess what? You don’t have to.
There is a pervasive culture of overachieving that is both stressful and unrealistic. Not everyone can be the best. Not everyone can be the employee of the year.
Just do what you can. Do what you feel well enough to do. No one will give you a trophy if you go to work when you’re sick. You’re not going to be acknowledged for wearing the latest fashion. People really don’t care about how skinny you are, how fast you run or how high your IQ is.
There’s no one standing at the finish line to cheer you on because life is not a race and it’s not about coming first.
Ease off on yourself. It’s OK to be OK. Show up at work and do your job. Exercise because it’s good for you. Eat well because it makes you feel better. Learn about things you enjoy. Pay your bills. Live somewhere you like. Hang out with people who make you laugh.
And if you mess up? That’s OK. Everyone does. Move on, keep trying and, most importantly, don’t be a dick because that’s all anyone actually cares about.